“Everything happens for a reason”

Have you ever felt connected with someone and think “I feel like I have known him / her before?” We may call this feeling to an undercurrent that links something that’s not really known. A link probably that connects to form friends / soul mates.

I never knew this subject has been discussed in different forum and have so many variant views, till one evening I got myself engrossed in a discussion at my friend’s house in Bengaluru. Indra my friend Ramakanth’s wife said – “Star of Bethlehem” flowers will bloom at 8 p.m. tonight. We saw lots of flowers bloom in their garden. I was told that wherever such plants are there in Bengaluru, they all would have bloomed and last only four hours. Marvelous isn’t it? I captured a few pictures of the flowers that lead me through a thought chain that happened in my experience. As a school student, the last bell rang at about 4 p.m. and soon I used to be home. I noticed flowers that blossomed at 4 p.m. and the name of that flower is linked to the time – “Nalmani Poo”. I had forgotten about this as time passed by.

Leucippus, the founder of the atomic theory declared, “Nothing occurs at random, but everything happens for a reason and by necessity”. It is known as Leucippus’ principle of causality. Whether in science or in practice Everything Happens for a Reason!

Sometimes people come into your life and you know right away that they were meant to be there… to serve some purpose, teach you a lesson or help figure out “who you are” or “who you want to be”. You never know who these people are but when you look at them, you know that every moment that you are with them they will affect your life in some profound way. Sometimes things happen to you at a time that may seem horrible, painful and unfair, but in reflection you realize that without overcoming those obstacles you would have never realized your potential, strength, will power or HEART.

While training people in Safety Management I used to conduct sessions on “Cause and Effect”. How a small act can lead to serious consequences. In his book “Rising out of Chaos”, Simon Peter Fuller also mention the Law of Cause and Effect. “We are totally responsible for our thought, word and deed and karma, both positive and negative, ensures that we rebalance energy or matter we are”.

On 17th July the MH17 Malaysian Airlines flight fell and 298 people perished, and one among them was Sanjit Singh Sandu (41) who swapped that flight with a friend. His wife another employee of Malaysian Airlines in the last minute swapped out of that flight MH 370 that went missing about four months ago. Rolly Herman from Calicut, was scheduled to take a flight in Air Force on an eventful morning, but his wife Milly who was preparing his special breakfast clicked back the time clock and he did not fly that aircraft that fell aground in Bangalore years back.

It happens. I was watching the scenarios that unfold typically in a hospital recently and spread my thought chain to assess the subject of discussions. Hearing some stories made me feel that it is true – everything happens …..

So when you meet a person she / he -> remember, let the connection, relationship be what it is. It may be five minutes, years or a life time. Let it manifest, the way it should, or meant to be. It has a destiny. If it stays or leaves, you are composed. People come into, return, retain or sweep through your life for a reason – let them be who and what they are meant to be. Witness the events as it is and not as you want it to be.

Life sometimes takes us in directions we don’t expect. “Some say its fate. Some say coincidence…” – I recollect the road sign on the winding roads to Ootty – “Expect the Unexpected”. This is not only a sign of caution, but a lesson to note and apply in our lives. Chetan Bhagat after the release of the film “KICK” wrote on Facebook “Sometimes, I look back and wonder, how on earth all this happened?” and he thanks his boss who told him he didn’t deserve to be promoted was reason he switched his path to fame.

I remember watching a presentation with a statement that one should wait for the chicken to break the shell and come out, or the pupae of a butterfly to be allowed for its time to see the world. Inspiring thoughts to ensure allowing things to happen the way it should be. Consider the teak tree. Its journey to mighty greatness begins with a small seed. Of course, the seed has to go through certain changes and stages of development in order to reach its full potential. Everything has its time.

Did you ever experience a nasty break up you encountered? If you believed that it happened for a reason then you may rename that experience – “The break up that led to the breakdown that led to the breakthrough!”

Aristotle believed and as per him there is always a reason for everything that happens. Your experiences are designed to shape and define you and, hopefully, grow you into the best that is possible. What we experience at first as deflating, frustrating or painful can be experienced with conscious insight as a growth opportunity or breakthrough. In our journey called LIFE such insights help you rise up stronger.

The fact is we all encounter “Bad things or bad people”. The fact is that you cannot influence much of what happens in life. Life is a fusion of free will merged with destiny. Free will helps you to choose. By making conscious choices one can reduce pain into gain and make our struggles into valuable lessons that help us grow strong. One day everything will showcase a perfect picture, but as of now laugh at the road blocks, unfinished tasks, wipe our tears and smile and remind that everything happens for a reason.

As I came out of my friend Nambiar’s house I recollected what I read in newspapers that with WhatsApp husband and wife staying in the same house chat on the digital waves! But at Nambiar’s residence his wife is the mid-point as she smiles away and she may know that everything happens for a reason. Her husband nearly stuck to wheel chair in the drawing room with old age problems, and her son Manoj stuck upstairs with invalid legs unable to move. The ambience reflected at their house makes me believe that there is abundant love oozing in that silent atmosphere. More than elsewhere where the struggle to cope with the tensions and concerns are overshadowing the reality of the journey called LIFE.

“We MUST be willing to get rid of the LIFE we have planned, so as to have the LIFE that is waiting for us” – Joseph Campbell.