MUSIC in our lives …

It was an evening where an audience without age barriers christened at the Calicut Town Hall. Lovely is the minimum that many expressed who watched the program from an overcrowded hall. Sure that was. Nostalgic melodies of Latha Mankeshkar and the rich voice of Mohammed Rafi were reverberating, sung by the two stalwarts in music – Rahamath and Firoz. The song presenter recollected the music of late 1950’s to the audiences. Years gone by; but shelf life of those songs has not perished.

I was watching that Sunday noon show on Television where latest movie on Dhoni was shown on StarPlus. Compare the epics of yesteryears in cinema and that of the recent ones. The movie is produced to cross the magic numbers of 100 and 200 crores and soon thereafter we forget about the movie.

What gets registered is stored as memoirs. We are flooded with a huge amount of alternatives and choices. Cell phone that costs a lot is replaced once a new brand comes up. Apps and Appo’s provide a variety beyond practical needs but we dispose off and life of the costly apparatus becomes redundant. Shelves in the show rooms get a refill, with more modern equipments.

That probably is due to a fact that our mind’s IN BOX is crowded with thoughts that clutter. We have in store more than what we can chew. This was not the case some years back. Number of e-mails, Whats App messages and Likes on Face Book are accountable for the crowded transaction of thoughts that obstruct a leaner positive chain of thoughts. That of course reduces the shelf life of our thoughts and thus our positive action. We then have an issue of time created by our mindset. That time we lose does not nourish quality time. We lose relationships. We cannot even relax.

We need to think what we do? Why we do? And when we do? – Otherwise we miss and end up in losing some good friends.

It is said that our body is the servant of our mind. Undesirable thoughts that invade constantly in our minds put our body into sicknesses created by mental and physical tension. And we succumb to deceases and wild pressures including monitory issues. The delicate body tissues surrender to the penchant bad thoughts and become ill. We see street urchins playful, and rich ones with tough exteriors.

Bring peace within yourself by avoiding jealousy, ill-will, judgment, comparison, evaluation, criticism, doubt and cynicism, suspicion and envy. It’s we who create peace within us.

When we are happy and positioned with love and forgiveness we tend to be happier and smiling at issues that once we felt were un-surmountable.  Forget and forgive and use the dust bin in your mind and brain, to re-invent spaces where slowly good things tend to flourish. “Understand the flaws to appreciate the perfection of the Universe” – Ka Chinery.

As me and my wife listened to the music that eve, the song had a silent sequence of a few milliseconds. That was a dip in the rhythm, a split second of solitude in isolation. I thought then we need to listen and be silent more than we speak. Pythagorus wrote: “Learn to be silent. Let your quieter mind listen and absorb”.

Silence settles our mind. That allows us to think what we are thinking. But most of us do multi-tasking, loosing focus and attention. We drive and we speak on phone at the same time. We risk our lives and we reduce the shelf life of others in accidents.

As the cell phones need re-charge our minds do need a re-charge of re-vitalizing doses of happiness. We have given away the power to control our mind. It was one of my friends who said – I will chose to pick the phone and the caller cannot enter and interrupt my flow of transactions and thoughts. Surely I will respond to the call.

Innumerable SMS, BBM, WhatsApp, IMO call tunes, and the times we enjoy in LIKEs on Face Book columns distract and enter our solitude and privacy. We allow the world – professional, social and digital space influence the way we live and interact.

I think we need to reflect and live. Live the way we want to live. Not the way others want our lives to be defined.

It’s then when music to the ears becomes soothing. It’s then when we tend to listen to the tunes, the flimsy voices of birds and start thinking that our lives with limited shelf life need to be enjoyed.




Soliloquy (Ugly is beautiful – if handled well)

Beyond the might of Alps, its beauty and elegance, what still strikes me when in thoughts is what my wife and I watched with awe. A lady holding her pet dog allowed it to litter on snow. After that she took out a plastic bag, picked up the discharge, wrapped and rolled it into her hand bag. Just a few days ago, while stepping into lift in our flat I stepped on to urine left behind by a pet dog and not minded by the owner. Both are lessons, about attitudes.

Observing nature is a source of abundance to learn lessons. Like reading a book, listening to TED lectures, discussing with people and thinking aloud, questioning with a reason.

Stories nurture our minds if we observe and listen like a child.

I learnt a lesson from this story. A farmer who grew award-winning corn was interviewed. The reporter discovered that she shared her corn seed with her neighbours.

Reporter asked the farmer “How can you afford to share your best corn seed with your neighbors when they are in competition with yours?”

he answered: The wind picks up pollen from ripening corn and swirls it from field to field. If my neighbours grow inferior corn, cross-pollination will steadily degrade quality of my corn. If I am to grow good corn, I must help my neighbours grow good corn.”

Her attitude is a lesson. Those who choose to live in peace must help others to be happy. Happiness is infectious. Those who choose to be happy help others to find happiness, for the welfare of each is linked up with welfare of all.

It is possible to give away and become richer! It is also possible to hold on too tightly and lose everything. Reading this story, I went into a state of soliloquy. In general we take things for granted and remain ignorant how nature is at work in the background for us.

As we move on our journey it is interesting to take interludes and watch mojo moments that catapult our moods.

I wonder how a flower named “Star of Bethlehem” blossoms once in a year and another one named “Neelakurinji” in Munnar, Kerala blossoms once in 14 years. Another variety named “Puya berteroniana” flowers once in a century. Remember the Deciduous plants that shed leaves in winter? Have you heard of a bird named Pied Crested Cuckoo” that only drinks water when it rains and not any other way? All these are examples that enrich our understanding in making choices, being silent and at times using the tactics of “Deaf-Ear” in relationships.

On my Face book account I add a quote and a picture daily, and the largest number of “like” came for the quote – “Some of the best moments in life are the ones you can’t tell anyone about”.

That brings us to the concept of “deaf-ear and blind-eye” syndrome in relationships. That’s acting “as-if” you did not hear when communications that you do not want to respond. By choosing to have temporary “blind eyes”, we tend to move on a path that least disturb the equilibrium in relationships.

Disposing off dogs excreta, shedding of leaves when matured, bird waiting for rains for drinking water, flower that blossom in a century – help us to understand that in a large cosmic alignment we can make choices that makes others happier.

To a large extent it’s about empathy, like the corn grower, that we manage the outcome to best advantage that result in exciting moments, and reap maximum benefits.

We need to build a relationship with nature, so that the tendency we create in ourselves “deaf-ear” & “blind-eye”, wipe away the clouds we recreate so that we listen to birds chirps and feel the wind that brush past our cheeks.