“If it scares you, it’s a good thing to try” – Seth Godin
We fear; most of us.
Some of us fear heights, crowd, fire, darkness, speed, snakes, silence and things like love. It is not uncommon that individuals fear death. About 58 million die in the world per year and over 8.5 million per year in India. It’s ok to be one?
Suspense for some is a thrill, like speeding vehicles. Have you watched the movie “The Birds” a 1963 American horror-thriller directed by Alfred Hitchcock? I had, and the movie neatly tucked in fear for a crow, frankly!
We are not scared of work, but what is in it? We are not afraid of heights, but afraid of falling. We fear people around us, because we fear of rejection by some of them. We are not afraid of love, but fear of not being loved back. We are afraid – to let go, as we are afraid to accept reality that he/she has gone. We are afraid to try again, for fear of getting hurt for same reason again and again. We are afraid of fire, thinking fire will consume us. We are afraid of snakes, feeing the bite and venom will kill us.
Conquering fear is not a right approach.
The picture on right is my daughter walking on fire and on left are me and my wife holding a python on our shoulders. My daughter in a training program did that exercise. She and her colleagues were invited by the trainer in a workshop, to have blind faith. He walked on fire. And then they walked on fire. I saw a man with a python on his shoulders looking for his living by putting it around probable customers. My response was – “If he can, why not I?” I invited my wife who obliged.
It looks that fears are stories we invent ourselves. Seeds of fear probably are embedded in our sub-conscious state. Over-thinking leads to stories that may not exist. Action breads courage. Successful people handle fear better, taking risks. A cat can never catch a mice if she wears a pair of gloves. Like a winner is afraid of losing, others are fearful of winning. Test of courage is to bear defeat without losing heart. The problem is that most people cling to their fears, because it’s part of who we are. If we aren’t ready to face our fears, probably we won’t transcend them. Fears we face, remember to listen to yourself, and use inner GPS.
In understanding fear, we need to accept anxiety. Not try to fight it. Instead watch anxiety. Just watch it and when you notice it, scale your level of fear and start to breathe longer on the out-breath. And expect the best outcomes.
“Fear is simply because you are not living with life, you are living in your mind. Your fear is always about what’s going to happen next. That means your fear is always about that which does not exist. If your fear is about the non-existent, your fear is hundred percent imaginary. You’re not rooted in reality. You are rooted in your mind. Rooted in reality, there would be no fear” “Fear is not a product of life. Fear is a product of mind. When we live in tomorrow we fear. If we live our life, it will be worth dying. Otherwise life will be regret.” Sadhguru.
”EVERYTHING YOU WANTED IS ON THE OTHER SIDE OF FEAR”.