Imperfection is perfection to a beautiful perspective.

Cleaning fish?

Yes, I was cleaning fish when my mind worked on fish in the sweet waters and sea. That was after a small trip I had to Ernakulam. On the way back we drove via the sea cost, passing through two rivers on the bridge. On the bridge were people fishing with hooks. The time was about 10 p.m. on that cloudy summer and bit sultry.

I generally sit on the balcony as I peel prawns (konju or Chemmeen). I saw ants carrying the shell. Ants are impressive, says Carlos Castro, a professor at Ohio State. “We made a conservative estimate that they might withstand 1,000 times their weight, and it actually is much more. While an ant carrying a huge leaf on top of its tiny frame provides sound analytical evidence that insects can carry weight far in excess of their own.  This is in comparison to nearly about 270 Kgms a human can lift.

 

WoW! I then tried to complete my cleaning work on fish.

 

Fishing for some is a hobby and for others a business. Those whom I saw fishing from those bridges sell their catch at nearby places like Feroke. Then my co-passenger pointed to the well lit fish market near Feroke as we alighted to see that delight.

 

Most of the fish on display for sale had the hook and thread in their mouths. As the fish seller cut the fish I saw him taking out a particular part and hooking it at a place. I asked what that was. He said that fishermen tie that part on the hook – a cycle of process that weaves the chain like the ants carrying the shell of the prawn. Nature and its wonders where human learn and apply.

Capabilities of individuals are learnt as skills. This coupled with natural talents add to human capacities. The limits and tolerances for each creature in nature are also different. Some complement as synergies.

Learning develops and when applied improves our performance.

My daughter Divya love to probe the past and apply it on future like younger daughter Megna. Both in one way or the other are teachers. Divya when she went for such a training session for her client base in London chose to break apart early morning with a cold surrounding the ambience to explore the fish market Billingsgate with her class mate who now run a restaurant there.

That’s amazing, fish in a verity, in colour and texture and shapes and sizes. The taste of-course as you know is also complex and superior. My friend’s son a chef now in Australia explores and prepares recipes at high end restaurants. He says value addition in his hands turns it expensive for customers.

The second process that I wondered was about the way the price tag goes up as the crabs gets to the restaurant tables in hotel chains. I buy the crabs from under the Elathur River bridge en-route to Kannur. It is good there and the price tag for a medium one could be anything around Rs. 45 to 50/- on not a pricy day. But as served in a high end restaurant in Australia that may cost many USDs.

Look at the way things change in our perspectives. The choices we make and the alternatives nature and man provide.

You can be right or wrong in someone else’s perspective. I wondered when I saw the ant carry the shell much higher than its own weight and the tiny part of fish going back to the fisherman to catch another fish on hooks. Never knew such things.

While adding value a transformation process takes place. It changes in context and in appreciation. Views from angles are varying for own eyes. We understand and misunderstand. Not knowing him /her also has an opinion to express and may be that is a different perspective. It is for us to keep an open eye a not so analytical and judgmental eye as we listen to appreciate another view point.

It is at those times I think of the kaleidoscope. Tilting to accept patterns that change that are varied and different. To think whether the next tilt will let you observe a better picture.

Megna likes mackerels and Divya Sardines. At home we buy both. Usha stopped eating crabs.

Imperfection is perfection to a beautiful perspective.

These days wives like Channel number 687 and husbands love Channel 9. A conflict begins on that. Look at the colours and styles of fish that live together. Some like it in a tartar sauce gravy and some bar-b-queue with a squeeze of lemon. I love fresh salad to accompany my fish with a bit of red wine vinegar and Darsh my grandson likes it with yogurt. The beauty is that Usha my wife prepares it to individual tastes at times.

Certainly it’s tolerances and acceptance that makes the music in our lives.

It probably is an open mind that matters. Those with that attitude do not impose their beliefs on others.  They accept all of life’s perspectives and realities and do their own thing to make peace of mind. Because tastes differ, interests differ.

Chose to have own paths. Those who see a path in front as a clear one probably are witnessing someone else’s path, not theirs.

Once again as I went to swab the portico I noticed a fly sitting on top of a left over prawn shell. That is different and that make up for the meal for the fly’s day. Everyone looks at things n different ways.

“Everything we hear is an opinion, not a fact. Everything we see is a perspective not a truth” – Marcus Aurelius.

Butterflies …

B Flies - 4 BlogTexas Annual Exhibition is where my daughter Divya had a second look at the little wonder – butterflies. She gifted us with a frame of butterflies. I wondered about this lovely creature God gifted to nature.

Lifespan of a butterfly depends on many things from two weeks to 30 days! Butterflies have inhabited our planet for 130 million years. Before a butterfly can flap its wings, it starts out as something completely different and transforms itself through four stages. Caterpillar after hatching from an egg has its first meal – the egg shell itself. Caterpillars molt several times and outgrow their exoskeleton. They lay hundreds of eggs but only a few survive. When a butterfly emerges from a chrysalis its wings are crumpled. It hangs with its wings down and pumps the wings with fluids to straighten them out – wait several hours for wings to harden and dry before flying away. How beautiful are they?

They see ultraviolet colors, invisible to our eyes and can see flowers. They cannot hear, but feel vibration and have a sense of smell. They communicate with each other by color, chemicals and sound. Color patterns signal along with a chemical pheromone to attract opposite sex. Clicking sounds attract ants that in turn protect them. They use support systems and methods for survival. The 12,000 different species of butterflies play a silent part in pollinating the earth’s plant population as part of food chain.

Divya bought our gift from a Peruvian Store. Peru hosts 20% of world population of butterflies. These are farm raised with an idea of conservation and helps local people to earn a living. Butterflies are allowed to live their natural life cycle and allowed to die. These are dissected, preserved for years to please our eyes as well to learn in retrospect.

Lessons learnt:

  • Survival is an instinct that we need to practice on a continuous basis.
  • With a short life span butterflies does pollination. Will Smith quote – “Life isn’t how many breaths you take, but it’s the moments that take your breath away” – Do what is IMPOSSIBLE.
  • Growth is NOT easy. Work for it.
  • Help each other – Like butterflies and ants.
  • Use the resources God gifted us – to be different.
  • Learn till you live – no shelf life for knowledge. As human beings we need to appreciate our sensory capabilities and intellect. We can be butterflies.

Motion & Emotions

I stopped watching motion pictures about 4-5 years back, without any single honest reason. And on May 20th went back to Crown Theatre at Calicut where I used to accompany my mother as a school child and her prime time was to watch a Hindi movie (@ Five Anna per seat then). Times have changed in technology of projection of movie in digitalized format and in sound engineering and ambience.

I took a picture of the old projector from where the light beams flew over to the silver screen those days and felt sort of attached to the past.

It was our daughters who suggested that we watch “PIKU”, a movie they said that I may enjoy. I tried to cope with the stigma of breaking the let known decision that I stopped watching movies, but was worth it, and this article sums up the points.

Times these days are in conflict with age, culture, times – past and present, society, sexual and behavioral instincts, gender issues. Current is also about children and elderly, pressures that put stress on people, binding with the roots that pull backward ideas of growth and changing  life styles. No wonder the audience of that show of PIKU consisted & complemented well with all these issues. I saw grey haired people, some holding sticks in their walk up on to their seats. Some were clad in jeans and what not. The crowd included Parses’, Gujus, some Bengalis, and South Indians.

I saw Amitabh as “BABU MOSHAI” in the film Anand way back in Calcutta early 1970 and was lucky to see him enact with élan as Bhaskor Banerjee of “Champa Kunj” from the banks of Ganga. The thread is what’s of significance – the theme that is deep rooted in a period – struggling with the changing times.

We all experience this in our daily lives – conflicts of interests, conflicts of ideas, conflicts with our identities –futile attempts to put up a show that leaves us who do not want to show case the originals of each one of us. We tend to cover up and are not willing to unlearn and adapt.

PIKU – the original or the root of the story is Kolkata and the current is Delhi. The link to the two extremes is by a taxi driver, who a civil engineer adapt himself after taking up a job as a project engineer in the Middle East, struggles gets sacked and goes back to run taxi service in Delhi. The current generation girl of below 30 is fighting her time and energy is emotive and gets moved and involved as she cannot adapt. She says “sex is a need” and “I am not a virgin”, and why her dad speaks about it to others? Her aunty in Moushumi Chatterjee says she would not mind getting married for a fourth time. These are todays problems subdued and are lucid and challenging the times and relationships. The driver / owner of car who show cased the mixture of Thulsi and Mint leaves to effectively improve motion and draw the Indian vis-à-vis British ways of passing motions. This gives constipation OR otherwise choked relationships. We need to change / adapt. The scenarios reflect the conditions and bring in similarities that stands offs between people, whether they differ in age, cast, creed, language and or gender.

Let Go is the essence (including motion) that we need to do as we pass through the journey of life. Bhaskor Banerjee takes a trip from Delhi to his ancestral home in Kolkota. There he indulges with nostalgia, changes his mind and goes cycling along the routes that once he enjoyed. He buys kachoris and jalebis, bring home, enjoys the day and that night peacefully passes away breathing well with a satisfied mind that he adapted rather than fought situations. He made a choice.

As I watched PIKU I observed majority have constipated mind channels that blocks food processing silos by acid formation with negative thoughts and stress.  If only mind-sets change to ease out pressures (both in motion and emotion) we are able to ease our muscles to thaw our relationship issues. We all are involved in thoughts that break up systems and processes in relationships. We need to de-clutter.  Fact is emotions play hide and seek in sustaining relationships. The single thread is love -> a++itude – Let Go.

I enjoyed the movie – as I made a change in my FIRM decision not to watch movies! Thank you children, thank you Usha. The lessons learnt of modifying my choice are with respect to relationships:-

  • We need to communicate and spend quality time together
  • We need to emotionally support each other by managing disagreements
  • Material and Money matters that dictate need to be handled better
  • Look beyond flaws – Look beyond perfection – Accept differences
  • Cope with Changing Expectations – over a period of time – Its’ changing every moment
  • Think (NOT) – “Where we are” and think “Where we want to be”
  • Be patient – think we have had some moments that are not so good, but not a bad LIFE as such.
  • Have fun, follow your passions