MUSIC in our lives …

It was an evening where an audience without age barriers christened at the Calicut Town Hall. Lovely is the minimum that many expressed who watched the program from an overcrowded hall. Sure that was. Nostalgic melodies of Latha Mankeshkar and the rich voice of Mohammed Rafi were reverberating, sung by the two stalwarts in music – Rahamath and Firoz. The song presenter recollected the music of late 1950’s to the audiences. Years gone by; but shelf life of those songs has not perished.

I was watching that Sunday noon show on Television where latest movie on Dhoni was shown on StarPlus. Compare the epics of yesteryears in cinema and that of the recent ones. The movie is produced to cross the magic numbers of 100 and 200 crores and soon thereafter we forget about the movie.

What gets registered is stored as memoirs. We are flooded with a huge amount of alternatives and choices. Cell phone that costs a lot is replaced once a new brand comes up. Apps and Appo’s provide a variety beyond practical needs but we dispose off and life of the costly apparatus becomes redundant. Shelves in the show rooms get a refill, with more modern equipments.

That probably is due to a fact that our mind’s IN BOX is crowded with thoughts that clutter. We have in store more than what we can chew. This was not the case some years back. Number of e-mails, Whats App messages and Likes on Face Book are accountable for the crowded transaction of thoughts that obstruct a leaner positive chain of thoughts. That of course reduces the shelf life of our thoughts and thus our positive action. We then have an issue of time created by our mindset. That time we lose does not nourish quality time. We lose relationships. We cannot even relax.

We need to think what we do? Why we do? And when we do? – Otherwise we miss and end up in losing some good friends.

It is said that our body is the servant of our mind. Undesirable thoughts that invade constantly in our minds put our body into sicknesses created by mental and physical tension. And we succumb to deceases and wild pressures including monitory issues. The delicate body tissues surrender to the penchant bad thoughts and become ill. We see street urchins playful, and rich ones with tough exteriors.

Bring peace within yourself by avoiding jealousy, ill-will, judgment, comparison, evaluation, criticism, doubt and cynicism, suspicion and envy. It’s we who create peace within us.

When we are happy and positioned with love and forgiveness we tend to be happier and smiling at issues that once we felt were un-surmountable.  Forget and forgive and use the dust bin in your mind and brain, to re-invent spaces where slowly good things tend to flourish. “Understand the flaws to appreciate the perfection of the Universe” – Ka Chinery.

As me and my wife listened to the music that eve, the song had a silent sequence of a few milliseconds. That was a dip in the rhythm, a split second of solitude in isolation. I thought then we need to listen and be silent more than we speak. Pythagorus wrote: “Learn to be silent. Let your quieter mind listen and absorb”.

Silence settles our mind. That allows us to think what we are thinking. But most of us do multi-tasking, loosing focus and attention. We drive and we speak on phone at the same time. We risk our lives and we reduce the shelf life of others in accidents.

As the cell phones need re-charge our minds do need a re-charge of re-vitalizing doses of happiness. We have given away the power to control our mind. It was one of my friends who said – I will chose to pick the phone and the caller cannot enter and interrupt my flow of transactions and thoughts. Surely I will respond to the call.

Innumerable SMS, BBM, WhatsApp, IMO call tunes, and the times we enjoy in LIKEs on Face Book columns distract and enter our solitude and privacy. We allow the world – professional, social and digital space influence the way we live and interact.

I think we need to reflect and live. Live the way we want to live. Not the way others want our lives to be defined.

It’s then when music to the ears becomes soothing. It’s then when we tend to listen to the tunes, the flimsy voices of birds and start thinking that our lives with limited shelf life need to be enjoyed.

 

 

 

Motion & Emotions

I stopped watching motion pictures about 4-5 years back, without any single honest reason. And on May 20th went back to Crown Theatre at Calicut where I used to accompany my mother as a school child and her prime time was to watch a Hindi movie (@ Five Anna per seat then). Times have changed in technology of projection of movie in digitalized format and in sound engineering and ambience.

I took a picture of the old projector from where the light beams flew over to the silver screen those days and felt sort of attached to the past.

It was our daughters who suggested that we watch “PIKU”, a movie they said that I may enjoy. I tried to cope with the stigma of breaking the let known decision that I stopped watching movies, but was worth it, and this article sums up the points.

Times these days are in conflict with age, culture, times – past and present, society, sexual and behavioral instincts, gender issues. Current is also about children and elderly, pressures that put stress on people, binding with the roots that pull backward ideas of growth and changing  life styles. No wonder the audience of that show of PIKU consisted & complemented well with all these issues. I saw grey haired people, some holding sticks in their walk up on to their seats. Some were clad in jeans and what not. The crowd included Parses’, Gujus, some Bengalis, and South Indians.

I saw Amitabh as “BABU MOSHAI” in the film Anand way back in Calcutta early 1970 and was lucky to see him enact with élan as Bhaskor Banerjee of “Champa Kunj” from the banks of Ganga. The thread is what’s of significance – the theme that is deep rooted in a period – struggling with the changing times.

We all experience this in our daily lives – conflicts of interests, conflicts of ideas, conflicts with our identities –futile attempts to put up a show that leaves us who do not want to show case the originals of each one of us. We tend to cover up and are not willing to unlearn and adapt.

PIKU – the original or the root of the story is Kolkata and the current is Delhi. The link to the two extremes is by a taxi driver, who a civil engineer adapt himself after taking up a job as a project engineer in the Middle East, struggles gets sacked and goes back to run taxi service in Delhi. The current generation girl of below 30 is fighting her time and energy is emotive and gets moved and involved as she cannot adapt. She says “sex is a need” and “I am not a virgin”, and why her dad speaks about it to others? Her aunty in Moushumi Chatterjee says she would not mind getting married for a fourth time. These are todays problems subdued and are lucid and challenging the times and relationships. The driver / owner of car who show cased the mixture of Thulsi and Mint leaves to effectively improve motion and draw the Indian vis-à-vis British ways of passing motions. This gives constipation OR otherwise choked relationships. We need to change / adapt. The scenarios reflect the conditions and bring in similarities that stands offs between people, whether they differ in age, cast, creed, language and or gender.

Let Go is the essence (including motion) that we need to do as we pass through the journey of life. Bhaskor Banerjee takes a trip from Delhi to his ancestral home in Kolkota. There he indulges with nostalgia, changes his mind and goes cycling along the routes that once he enjoyed. He buys kachoris and jalebis, bring home, enjoys the day and that night peacefully passes away breathing well with a satisfied mind that he adapted rather than fought situations. He made a choice.

As I watched PIKU I observed majority have constipated mind channels that blocks food processing silos by acid formation with negative thoughts and stress.  If only mind-sets change to ease out pressures (both in motion and emotion) we are able to ease our muscles to thaw our relationship issues. We all are involved in thoughts that break up systems and processes in relationships. We need to de-clutter.  Fact is emotions play hide and seek in sustaining relationships. The single thread is love -> a++itude – Let Go.

I enjoyed the movie – as I made a change in my FIRM decision not to watch movies! Thank you children, thank you Usha. The lessons learnt of modifying my choice are with respect to relationships:-

  • We need to communicate and spend quality time together
  • We need to emotionally support each other by managing disagreements
  • Material and Money matters that dictate need to be handled better
  • Look beyond flaws – Look beyond perfection – Accept differences
  • Cope with Changing Expectations – over a period of time – Its’ changing every moment
  • Think (NOT) – “Where we are” and think “Where we want to be”
  • Be patient – think we have had some moments that are not so good, but not a bad LIFE as such.
  • Have fun, follow your passions